
There’s more pressure than ever to get things right in every part of your life. Gadgets, apps and advice on how to be your very best surround us. But that’s an illusion. No one can be perfect. It’s just humanly impossible.
Don’t get me wrong. Of course, it’s great to set the bar high and to go after challenges and stretch yourself. But you can’t expect to win at everything every time. Step back for a moment and consider the benefits of embracing imperfection:
You’re Happier
Perfectionists carry a lot of emotional baggage from trying to look as though their entire world is 110% wonderful all the time. They’re at a higher risk of experiencing depression and anxiety and are rarely content with what they have. Why not embrace the messy, flawed parts of your life and yourself? You’ll be happier and less stressed.
You Won’t Fear Failure So Much
Accepting imperfection means failure shrinks down to being just another aspect of life. Perfectionists tend to take failure personally. It becomes a catastrophe and something that defines their sense of self. By accepting that making mistakes is human, you now see failure as an opportunity to learn, make the necessary changes and move on.
Embracing Imperfection Makes You More Interesting
If you’re comfortable with imperfection, you won’t be so quick to criticize and judge others. And that makes you a much nicer and interesting friend, colleague and family member. You’ll be less likely to blow your fuse over trivial things, you’ll cut people more slack, and relationships will be calmer and more rewarding. Warning: your social circle and calendar could get substantially busier too.
Your Self-Esteem Grows
People who accept their flaws and quirks are less likely to be hard on themselves when they make a mistake. Perfectionists are usually their own harshest critic. As a result, their self-esteem is fragile and easily crushed. By acknowledging your humanity, you’re less likely to feel guilty or ashamed if you make a mistake or don’t reach your goals as quickly as you might have liked.
You Inspire Others
Imperfection is the keynote to being human. It’s how we learn and progress and it’s what connects us. Gracefully accepting the ebbs and flows of life will make you someone others look up to and admire. Your kids will see that you value them more than the vase they broke.
Donna S. Vieira is a certified Gentle Trauma Release Practitioner and Astro-Empowerment Coach who uses her knowledge of Astrology in sessions with her clients. She’s also a published freelance travel and lifestyle writer, blogger, and editor who has traveled the globe. You can read about some of her travels at FromMyTravelBag.com. She and her chef husband, Fernando, own Globetrotters Bed & Breakfast/Gallery in Niagara-on-the-Lake, Canada, where they have been welcoming guests from around the world since 2002.